Chap Goh Mei 15th day of CNY
1. Today is the Chinese teochew last day of the Chinese New Year! The 15th day or so call Chap Goh Mei! It is believed by the Chinese that during this night, the single who is looking for a bride or groom will go to the river and throw an orange after making a wish. Let the orange land into the mouth of a gold fish and your luck will be good to catch a beautiful wife. For girl you will catch a Prince Charming the following year.
2. I once told my friend if I will to be single again I will go and throw a pamelo, bigger than an orange! My friend joke that I will get an Or You tang wife if my pamelo landed in the mouth of a crocodie!
3. Not long later on 10th Feb 1990 my wife, Annie tan aged 32 yrs, passed away in hospital ! Died of breast cancer.
4. By coincident the Chinese date was on the Chap Goh Mei 10th Feb 1990. Hence, every anniversay 15th day of the Chinese New Year I had to visited her and bought flower! Since I became Christian I do not offer any food and light joss stick but just bought flower to her.
At time I feel guilty! What happen now she has no food to eat in the other world? Jialat!
5. Today her 19th Anniversary, I bought a bouquet of flower to present to her. Feeling a bit guilty I bought an all in one paper packet consisting of clothing and other necessity! On arrival at the Tse Tho Aun crematorium temple I placed the flower on the table. The paper packs was burnt as offering to her with the name written! The chinese believed the dead will received the paper offering! I am doubtful! Anyway play safe lah just burnt lor!
6. After the offering and my prayer to her I decided to visit the urn where part of her bone was kept. I bought some tissue to clean up the ceramic urn which was placed on lot no B3 12358!
As I went to the gate entrance I found the iron gate was locked. Not knowing what to do I stood there outside the gate(it was the side gate).
7. Shortly, an elderly man appeared behind me while I was staring at the locked gate! I told the man I wanted to visited my wife urn to clean up! He then offer to led me into the condominium building by the main entrance where there was someone guarding the entrance! I managed to enter the house of the dead and clean up the ceramic urn of my loved one!
8. After the cleaning I walked out led by the same elderly man. Just shortly outside the building, the elderly man just simply dissappeared out of my sight. Curious, I asked the guard where was the man who led me in and out of the building? The man was talking to me saying the side gate was closed due to a family member complained of their gold belongings was missing from the urn.
9. I was shocked when the guard say there was no one leading me in and out of the building. In fact he told me that he was surprised why I was talking to myself walking alone in and out passing by him. He asked whether I was OK!
10. Stunned ! I turned around and chabot home as soon as I can! This is my 19th anniversary Chap Goh Mei 2009!
open your eyes
Monday, February 9, 2009
3:31 AM
